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Guys, listen up. Tips and tricks on HOW to 'score' on AFF...
Guys, listen up. Tips and tricks on HOW to 'score' on AFF... This post is for all you would be 'Lotharios' and horn-dogs out here trying to get hooked up with one of the fine ladies of Cyber Dating Online. I've been here on Cyber Dating Online for 9 years now and yes, I've had both my share of success and rejection. I have learned quite a bit in those 9 years about how to behave on this site towards other people and what 'works' especially in regards to meeting women and I am offering to share this knowledge with you out of the goodness of my own heart. LOL Well that and I does tend to drive me crazy seeing some of the ‘stuff’ you guys try and pull. So with all that said AND knowing that your attention span is about as long as your dick is, here in no particular order, are Tazzerman’s Rules of Etiquette: READ the woman’s profile. The gals out here for the most part, tend to write those things honestly AND in hopes that you will in fact read them fully BEFORE you attempt to contact them. If the girls profile says that she’s not into married men and you’re married, don’t try to hit on her ANYWAY! If it says that she’s only looking for guys within say 50 miles of where she lives and you live 4000 miles away, don’t HIT on her. Use some common sense. Be honest. I can NOT stress this enough. There’s NO reason to lie out here. If you do, eventually the truth WILL come out and trust me dude, the women on this site DO in fact talk to each other. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Do NOT, under any circumstances, write an initial email to a girl that tells her just how a) good you are at licking pussy, b) how big your dick is, c) what a great lover you are, d) how many OTHER woman you’ve fucked in your lifetime, e) what you plan on doing to her for days and days on end. Don’t DO IT! Treat her with respect from the outset. Let HER determine how and when you might or might not get involved either physically or virtually. Keep in mind at ALL times that the person on the other end of your messages is in fact a REAL PERSON! You do have the ‘luxury’ of hiding behind the internet and your screen but that doesn’t give you a license to be a total jack ass. Use a fucking spell checker and take a little extra time to put together some coherent sentences. Text speech is almost ALWAYS an instant turn off. Most of the women on this site are very intelligent and they do actually look for that in most of the guys they’re interested in. Do NOT believe the advertising on this site. You will NOT get laid tonight. PERIOD! It isn’t going to happen… The best way to proceed here is to know full well that it is in fact going to take a bit of time and effort on your part to connect with someone. Read their blog if they have one. There is NO better way to get to know some of the gorgeous ladies out here than to read their blogs. Most of the blog writers out here pour their heart and soul into those posts. Start your OWN blog. Let people know who you are and hopefully you ARE a nice guy and not in fact some asshole. Realize that the woman of your dreams can come in just about any and all shapes, sizes, colors and types. There is NO SUCH THING as an ugly woman and if you think there is, well let’s just say you have a LOT to learn. Keep in mind that the women on this site are under NO obligation what so ever to acknowledge your existence. Like women everywhere, they have the right to ultimately decide who they choose to meet with and why. Be gracious when confronted with rejection. Do NOT send them some nasty email calling them all manner of names and telling them that it’s their loss. Nine times out of ten, all you’ll end up doing is becoming blog fodder. Here’s a PERFECT example of what NOT to post in your own blog. “I'm constantly shocked at the number of profiles i see on this site by women, i won't even take a second glance at saying their picky, want a certain race, or man. Are you kidding me. Are there really that many desparate men on this site that women who are fat, ugly and arrogant can be picky. It makes me sad.” Trust me guys, this is NOT the way to garner attention around here... I have purposely NOT identified the guy who wrote this but suffice it to say he’s touched off a total blog swarm with his totally insensitive comment about fat, ugly and arrogant women.. A quick read of both his profile and his blog header is enough to cause most women to run screaming and is a perfect example of go back and do it again… Women DO like confident, strong ‘alpha’ males BUT there’s a fine line between being one and becoming an ego-centric jerk. Don’t cross it. I never intended this list to be all encompassing but I think I’ve captured the majority of the issues that need to be addressed. If you can’t or don’t understand these ‘tips’ then I suggest you go elsewhere. Yes this IS a so called ‘sex site’ but that doesn’t give ytou the right to treat the people here without respect. The gals here on Cyber Dating Online deserve it! -tm |
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I think you missed the point he is making. Yes, we all get that not everyone is real, but when you write to someone write AS IF they are a real person. That was his point. If you write as if it is a fake and are nasty you COULD be telling off a real person. You want to put your best foot forward not just assume it is a fake or a bot. If you truly believe it is a fake then don't write it at all. That was his point hun. Sorry for the intrusion, but I did want to point that out to you. Enjoy your day!
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Interesting article it is not the gentle shower,but thunder.We need the storm,the whirlwind,and the earthquake
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If I hadn't read a post by Icould today, I never would have found this. THANK YOU!!!! (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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There you go making sense again.Sometimes I just don't know what you're thinking. lmfao. Good post. Good advice that could be put to use in all facets of our lives.
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Excellent post and suggestions. Thank you.
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11/8/2013 3:35 pm |
I agree wholeheartedly with your points. Even if a "relationship" is only sexual, Respect for the other person is number one in my book !The old adage "Treat people the way you want to be treated" is as true as it ever was.
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Everything you wrote is the truth, but the world is also full of idiots and dumdums, who not only do not know how to read, they also do not know how to write or spell... but they try anyway...lol.
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most beautiful women on here you could ever be with
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Of course I was just being flippant my dear. In all seriousness, the maturity level or lack of I should say, is astounding and yes, that does in fact impact the choices made. Responsibility is a bit part of it also that's for sure... Have you read this post What it means to be a man ? They kind of go hand and hand
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I honestly don't believe that hun. I think it is an excuse to not be responsible for one's self. Everyone is capable of making choices, just many make bad choices and then don't own up to it. It is sad that people do that and then continually fail. Seriously, they get all ticked off when gay men send them things, they should think how it feels for us to have our profiles ignored. I usually do stress that in order to try and help out the newbies.
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Thank you! It just goes to show that the old adage is correct: G-d gave men both a brain and a dick BUT only enough blood to run one or the other at a time! -tm
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Hey Tazz... thought I would let you know. I have a friend who is here for Exhibitionism only. She actually wrote the definition of what exhibitionism is stating that it is only 'showing on cam and not meeting in person or any kind of contact'. She told me and has shown me just how many guys are total jerks and write her anyway and ask her what kind of exhibitionism or what is exhibitionism. Obviously they read enough to see that it is all she is into, but they still try to contact her and get her to meet and all. It is very frustrating for her and I bet others as I know a few here for just showing on cam. No matter how clear they are there is always someone trying to make them do what they don't want yet those men have in caps on their profiles "I am NOT GAY!! NO MEN!!". They don't like it yet they do it to others.... amazing.. and they wonder why they can't get anywhere. You have a great blog hun!!
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Hey Tazz... thought I would let you know. I have a friend who is here for Exhibitionism only. She actually wrote the definition of what exhibitionism is stating that it is only 'showing on cam and not meeting in person or any kind of contact'. She told me and has shown me just how many guys are total jerks and write her anyway and ask her what kind of exhibitionism or what is exhibitionism. Obviously they read enough to see that it is all she is into, but they still try to contact her and get her to meet and all. It is very frustrating for her and I bet others as I know a few here for just showing on cam. No matter how clear they are there is always someone trying to make them do what they don't want yet those men have in caps on their profiles "I am NOT GAY!! NO MEN!!". They don't like it yet they do it to others.... amazing.. and they wonder why they can't get anywhere. You have a great blog hun!!
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As a fat, ugly, arrogant woman on this site, I thank you for writing an amazing post - you wouldn't believe the amount of personal abuse girls on here can get for not answering emails within thirty seconds, declining to pursue a conversation or, indeed, just about anything else: I'm sorely tempted to set up my auto-response with you link!
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As a fat, ugly, arrogant woman on this site, I thank you for writing an amazing post - you wouldn't believe the amount of personal abuse girls on here can get for not answering emails within thirty seconds, declining to pursue a conversation or, indeed, just about anything else: I'm sorely tempted to set up my auto-response with you link!
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Only three? Good job lol -tm
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Absolutely! It's amazing how folks forget that fact once they're online, hiding behind their computer screen isn't it?? Thanks for the thoughts/comment
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7/18/2012 6:59 pm |
I have to say this is a great post and amazingly true. I especially love the last part as I can and have been occasioned as arrogant or stuck up when in reality I just didn't see a need to acknowledge the person at hand for their lack of time to sit and read the profile they had to go through to message me... For now the people call me weird and a freak, but the pages of history will say this about me "Even though she was a bit eccentric, that woman was one of the greatest thinkers in her field of the time"
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Lurking Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.
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LOL you are just TOO funny -tm
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Ok, Tazz ... I finally got around to reading it ... you are right and it's good advice. But I still kinda prefer for the idiots to NOT get the advice, so that I know that they are idiots in that first email that they send!!! It makes my life so much easier to just hit "delete" on that fist email ... than to find out later they are a jackass after I have an actual conversation with them.
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TAZZ always good posts hun. I agree.. if MORE only realized that being jerks and arseholes isn't going to work....lol high 5 to you hun. . LOL @ 10 years of blogs to catch up on. HONESTLY.. my own blogs have been getting hammered with visitors lately too!! . #1...Best Complimentary Emails wupdates #2...Emailslame, boring, or just plain stupidwupdates #3...A polite No Thank You can cause thiswupdates #4...Unsolicited HATE Emails no prior contactwupdates
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Thank you!!!! What an excellent post... Hugs EE407
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I totally just posted a link to this in my blog, babe. Love you.
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I think it's some excellent advice. Men would do well to commit it to memory. I've been on here a while, both with and without partners. I've met some of the most beautiful women on here you could ever be with. Some with partners and some without. Women are truly beautiful. The way they smell, the way they taste, the way they make you feel when you're with them. But then that's always been my problem.
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3/4/2010 1:34 pm |
Very well stated !
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Thanks for the advice! Most of what you said seems pretty common sense, but who ever said that common sense is all that common.
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What?
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GREAT BLOG!! I have to add this to my list I send out. I always do appreciate well thought out things, and you did a great job. I would like to add MY links if that is okay.... many of the messages people send out do NOT think and have no clue just how BAD they sound or look to someone. And many have no clue why women are not answering them. There is a myriad of answers to that, but amongst them are one of my blogs, we get flamed for just saying NO. Guys have no clue how inundated women are with messages from as in my case 100-150 messages A DAY and trust me, after the first 5 dick shots, they all BLURR. Followed by if it is Quasimodo owning that dick or a total arrogant pig, we do not CARE what it looks like!! rofl But we can't possibly send out replies of 'no' to each and every one of those, as well as many ARE the exact opposite of what our profile says i.e. married/not.. distances or age. But here they are.. have a laugh, a smile, you may get angry, but you will understand better why some are NOT getting laid on here.. LEARN from these.. #1...Best Complimentary Emails wupdates #2...Emailslame, boring, or just plain stupidwupdates #3...A polite No Thank You can cause thiswupdates #4...Unsolicited HATE Emails no prior contactwupdates Idiots DO ruin it for good guys. **WARNING** These are ALL actual and REAL messages sent out by people that truly DID think it was a good idea at the time. The Darwin Awards are holding places for some of these. You have my permission to utilize this post however you deem necessary my dear. -tm p.s. Btw, in case ANYONE was wondering, this post IS my own. I wrote it, every word. It was NOT copied from elsewhere and I take full ownership...
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GREAT BLOG!! I have to add this to my list I send out. I always do appreciate well thought out things, and you did a great job. I would like to add MY links if that is okay.... many of the messages people send out do NOT think and have no clue just how BAD they sound or look to someone. And many have no clue why women are not answering them. There is a myriad of answers to that, but amongst them are one of my blogs, we get flamed for just saying NO. Guys have no clue how inundated women are with messages from as in my case 100-150 messages A DAY and trust me, after the first 5 dick shots, they all BLURR. Followed by if it is Quasimodo owning that dick or a total arrogant pig, we do not CARE what it looks like!! rofl But we can't possibly send out replies of 'no' to each and every one of those, as well as many ARE the exact opposite of what our profile says i.e. married/not.. distances or age. But here they are.. have a laugh, a smile, you may get angry, but you will understand better why some are NOT getting laid on here.. LEARN from these.. #1...Best Complimentary Emails wupdates #2...Emailslame, boring, or just plain stupidwupdates #3...A polite No Thank You can cause thiswupdates #4...Unsolicited HATE Emails no prior contactwupdates Idiots DO ruin it for good guys. **WARNING** These are ALL actual and REAL messages sent out by people that truly DID think it was a good idea at the time. The Darwin Awards are holding places for some of these.
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THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!! I wish I could use this blog as my automatic reply. I just received an email from someone under my age range who lumped sentences into one LONG run-on without punctuation or capitalization. I had to re-read and take a breath where I thought the end of the sentence would be. Then he wonders why no one responds. Guys, listen up Tips and tricks on HOW to 'score' on AFF xoxo -tm
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1/3/2010 11:34 pm |
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!! I wish I could use this blog as my automatic reply. I just received an email from someone under my age range who lumped sentences into one LONG run-on without punctuation or capitalization. I had to re-read and take a breath where I thought the end of the sentence would be. Then he wonders why no one responds.
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1/3/2010 5:35 am |
thanks for the advice, now back to plotting how to bed the girls, happy new year
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1/2/2010 10:50 pm |
thanks great addvice.
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good advice might use some
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good comment ... thanks for sharing ..
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Why am I here? Easy. To meet all of the truly wonderful people who ARE here that I can... Please feel free to link to this post whenever you need to. Hopefully enough guys will read it so that it does in fact make a bit of a difference ok? xoxoxox -tm
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Aww thank you sweetheart -tm
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1/2/2010 6:26 am |
Dead this is good to hear. Very much the truth in what you say
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1/2/2010 2:09 am |
nice post tazz. u been paying attention eh?
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brasileiro pode entrar?
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brasileiro pode entrar?
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12/31/2009 5:05 am |
you are sick I won't lick no man ass men are sick thinking they are trannsexuals cd Tv
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12/30/2009 2:00 pm |
Good advice here good luck all
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12/30/2009 10:22 am |
great advice
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Good for you.. Feel free -tm
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12/30/2009 5:47 am |
I would like to add, that guys should also avoid sending photos of their penis. A profile with a smiling photo is good; ideally one with casual attire and another in business attire, showing the whole body. NEVER directly mention sex with the female. Lastly, be confident with a sense of humor.
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12/30/2009 4:15 am |
oh gawddamn...! great post!!!
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A very good post TZ., all the ladies on this site should have a copy of this to post in their replies to show the idiots out there what a real man is.
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That is so true it's not any different fromcrealcdating you wouldn't treat someone like that in real life haha. We shouldn't walk around with our cocks outta our pants here either ;p
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12/29/2009 9:53 am |
will those thing really work?
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Cheers to this mate! I haven't been a member nearly so long as you but it drives me just as crazy to see some of the crap that goes on. Please guys, stop making those of us who have respect look like total dicks.
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Tazz you wrote this for us girls if men dont read our profiles and blogs they wont read yours i have come to the conclusion most cant read hehehe you're the best
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Bravo!! Well done, indeed.
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i agree with you dude....i agree with you...bt the thing u have said is kinda obvious...
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12/28/2009 11:11 am |
I knew this before I signed up, yes I was hoping it would be easier to meet someone but hey if it was easy what fun would it be, the thing I am tired of I put the effort in writing an email only to find out she is trying to send me to another site and that is a let down and I read everything to find out what there looking for almost everything anyway some it would take hours, but some want to hear fantasys about a first date or what you like, anway yes women should be respected and so should us men
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12/28/2009 9:25 am |
i agree with you dude....i agree with you...bt the thing u have said is kinda obvious...
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well I most certainly will -tm
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Yep. Treat the gals out here like human beings and with respect. That's not TOO much to ask now is it? Thanks for stopping by. Spread the word OK? -tm
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Great one here.. Kudos Just only wonder how many guys will get this advice in their heads
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Great one here.. Kudos Just only wonder how many guys will get this advice in their heads
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LOL! That's the first time I*'ve EVER hear that here.. LOL Too funny and too cute my dear! -tm
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tazz ,nicely done ! Cheers Fean71
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Omega nerd? LOL... What the hell does that make me? Tazzerman, the Consummate Geek? -tm
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Well said!
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As usual, Tazz, you are 100% on the money! Now if only we could get men to read this fabulous advice. ***
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LOVE the post!! This should be part of to a "welcome to passion" intro. A must read for any/all who hope to get a response other than the finger, lol.
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Soell check? Honesty? Respect? ok, got it...DON'T talk about Big Jim (or the Twins...right?.) Lol, I read the post Mr. Congeniality did and let me tell ya, I laughed out loud...wonder why women can be a bit cautious around here! Merry Christmas Taz... LT
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Well said! I may have read a post like that. Just because it is a "sex" site (Swingers, Free Adult Chat & Adult Personals Site!) doesn't mean it has to be devoid of respect and basic common courtesy. I really don't think there IS a fine line between an alpha male and an ego-centric jerk. An alpha is strong, confident and secure in themselves. An ego-centric is weak, possessive, unsure, and has doubts of their own short comings. Sapere aude, cor ad cor loquitur. RaMbLiNgS oF a LoSt MiNd
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How very well put. You are a find! Thank ThatsMrsR2U for the pimp, or I'd have missed it.
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12/21/2009 8:22 pm |
YOU ROCK!!!
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Venerable TM! Nine years???? Holy fuck!!!! Do you have full dirty Jedi powers yet? Well while your post is nice in terms of a gesture towards taking the edge off of emails from the many no class primitive numbskulls, I really don't believe that anything can stop those on the whole. And a confession: I like guys sending emails like that. I remember after I realized the practical rules of engagement on Cyber Dating Online, I carefully wrote an email to a woman. (and I ALWAYS read their profiles and blog BTW) I showed it to my GF who had been getting asshatted like crazy, and she said 'are you kidding? She has NO choice but to reply to that. I've never gotten anything that good'. Thusly, my very first blog post soon after was an anti asshat post. So guys, don't listen to Tazzer. His dreamy lobotomized head is in the clouds You don't want educate everyone, and cheat all the ladies out of ODB's magnificence, do you? All are welcome to an audience with The Magnificent One oldirtybacchus
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KUDOS on your post tazzerman, completely agree with the comments made by fellow bloggers M & F alike. Your comments here definitely SHOULD be a must read for all. Many thanks to ThatsMrsR2U for pimping this blog. Hugs and well placed kisses - Chris
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Absolute. -tm
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12/21/2009 5:15 pm |
Knew all of this before but it is always good to have a refresher. Thanks. I have only met a few women from here and only had sex with two of them. The best thing is all the friends I've made and may never meet in person.
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Tazz dear you get one really big and juicy slurp for this! Have to reward you somehow for the attempt at least. Oh gee, whatever shall I give you?
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AMEN Dear Abbey!
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Tazz dear you get one really big and juicy slurp for this! Have to reward you somehow for the attempt at least. Oh gee, whatever shall I give you? Hear my brain work when you check out the Cricket's Chirp
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Good advice... alas as said they're never gonna get to read it In a full heart there is room for everything. In an empty heart there is room for nothing.
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Tazz baby..........this is one of the many reasons I love you. Thank you for posting this . . . . . . . . even though the idiots that need to read it wont. If I have stopped by your blog, please be sure to sign my permission slip Pimp Me, Pimp My Blog, But Let Me Do The Same With You
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BRAVO!!! Can understand why you are so busy... Only universal or also in Scotland Where to start my day or is it month Of course I39ll change I39ll do whatever you like Heatseeking missiles Squirter's life
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